5 Ways To Date Your Spouse


Well hello! Today’s post is a bit more romantic if you will. Or practical. Or necessary. I guess it’s really a matter of perspective. For me, it’s all of the above. Most of us are busy. Life is full of hustle and bustle and sometimes we are just getting through the days and we might barely talk to our sig others but it’s so important to connect with those that we love. Especially our significant others. Our partners in crime. Our better half. It’s important to set some time aside to connect. Sure, after the kids are in bed is a great concept but a reality? Maybe not. I don’t know about the rest of you but my husband is often times in bed right after the kids! I am barely winding down at that point so that usually isn’t our time to catch up.

This is where, date your spouse {significant other, partner, etc} comes into play. Set aside some time. Even if it’s weekly or bi-weekly for a date. What? A date? Who has time for that? You do. Make.It.Happen. Now, don’t overthink this. A date doesn’t have to be a huge event. A date is simply taking some time to be together. Uninterrupted without kids. Maybe for you, this is after the kids go to bed. Maybe you will sit down, pour a glass of wine and catch up. Maybe not.

Maybe you don’t have kids but you are still a bit disconnected cause well, life. No matter what, date your spouse. Find the time. Make it happen cause yes, life gets busy and time passes. Steal the moments when you can.

My husband is a firefighter and has a pretty great schedule. He is typically scheduled off for 4 days in a row {except for the overtime, meetings, and training that pop up which does happen often}. This means that we have time during the day to hang out. A few things that we like to do?

  • Go to breakfast {or coffee, lunch, dinner, happy hour, wine tasting, etc}
  • Hang out at home. Yep, you can still make this a date. Turn off technology, have a cocktail and play a game. YES! You’ve got this. Which reminds me, I should probably learn how to play Cribbage. It would make the hubs very happy.
  • Take a walk. Even if it’s only for 15 minutes. Little moments really are a big deal. Really.
  • Visit a new place. Last year we went to High Hands Nursery. I had been hearing about it for a long time but had never been. We walked around the beautiful grounds and then had lunch at their amazing restaurant.
  • Get outta town! Yes, this one is a bit harder to coordinate if you have kiddos or pets because you have to schedule child or pet care but guess what? It’s totally worth it! Last May, my hubby and I did a one-night getaway to Healdsburg. We stayed at a rather interesting B&B {I’m pretty sure it was haunted!} and then had an amazing dinner and walked around downtown Healdsburg. It was heaven. On our way home, we stopped at a brewery that he’d been wanting to try as well.

What are the benefits of this you ask? Connection! When we take that time to really focus on each other, it makes us feel connected. That connection brings about endorphins. Guess what? That’s a good thing! Endorphins are associated with feelings of attachment and comfort.

So I challenge you to date your spouse. Go ahead, schedule that time. You’ll be happy that you did.

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